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A North East man, who physically and emotionally abused his partner, is urging other abusive men to get help.
He got help from Barnados after an arrest for violence meant he could lose his children.
He’s been kept anonymous to protect is identity and is backing a campaign by Northumbria Police, which highlights the impact domestic abuse can have on young people.
The campaign warns that regardless of whether the child has been physically abused, witnessing violent behaviour in their home by seeing it, hearing it or just noticing signs of injury, will have a profound effect on them.
Temporary Detective Superintendent Lisa Orchard said:
"Children can 'witness' domestic abuse in many ways.”
"They don't have to see this first hand. They may be in another room and hear everything that's happening. They may see the aftermath of a violent episode such as injuries to their parents or guardians or breakages in the house.”
"However it's witnessed, it can still go on to have a detrimental impact on a child's own behaviour.”
"They may become withdrawn, anxious or depressed; have problems with school or even go on to display aggression themselves.”
"While we completely understand the trauma faced by victims of domestic violence, we're urging them to think about how this is also traumatic for any children involved and can affect the rest of their lives. They can stop this cycle of abuse by reporting it to police or speaking to a support agency.
"The same message goes to those who commit acts of domestic violence who should seek help to alter their behaviour."
Anyone suffering abuse can call 0800 066 5555 for independent and confidential advice.
To change abusive behaviour, call Respect on 0808 802 4040.