Emma Thompson's sexual consent guide for her daughter is complete mum goals

17 November 2018, 12:32

Emma Thompson and Gaia

The dame even has a special word for doing-the-do.

If you didn't think Dame Emma Thompson was cool before, then you definitely will after this. 

Whilst many parents (and children) may find having THE conversation about the birds and the bees a tad bit...awkward, Emma found the perfect way to break down consent and emotional wellbeing to her then 10-year-old daughter, Gaia with the ultimate guide to consent and emotional wellbeing. 

And we all want a copy. 

Speaking on the My Dad Wrote a Porno podcast, Gaia - now 18-years-old - shared an extract from the book, which even revealed Emma's nickname for the word 'sex'. 

She read: ‘Can I start by saying one thing – I think sex is a really shiz word. It’s all s’s and x’s and sounds like a snake, not in a good way, and is hard and sibilant on the ear, and used to make me feel slightly queasy even just hearing it. 

‘For the purpose of these early writings, I’m going to choose another word. In fact, I’m going to make one up. Shavoom.’ 

The Love Actually star jested with podcast hosts James Morton, James Cooper and Alice Levine that she found the whole thing quite 'yiddish' and also shared that the word 'horny' is another word that she hates. 

Continuing to read from book, Gaia said: ‘There are certain feelings to look out for, and in this patch of life, the really crucial feeling is the icky sense of unease we get when there is shavoomy stuff floating around that we are not comfortable with. 

‘If anyone does anything, says anything, implies anything, shows anything, suggests anything that makes you feel ick, move away, get away, say no thank you, or even just no without the thank you, walk away because ick is an unbelievably useful emotion. Ick means no.’ 


The 59-year-old mum-of-two explained that she taught her daughter that in order for her to be comfortable in a situation, the feelings in her head, heart and groin should all match up in a sexual situation. 

Later on in the interview, Emma even revealed how her sex scene with actor Jeff Goldblum received the stamp of approval from the Campaign Against Pornography group. 

She said: "When the campaign came out, the Campaign Against Pornography… said that if they were to show their children a sex scene, they would show that one, because it was fun, and funny, and full of humour"