The Science Of How You Sleep

Couple in bed

Find out what your sleeping position says about you and your relationship, are you a BED HOGGER?

The Spoon - Eighteen per cent of couples love a good spoon. Although it’s considered a traditional position – a sign of one partner who is protective over another – it’s also a little bit saucy. ‘It’s a very vulnerable position that’s sexual, but says, “I trust you,”‘ says body language expert Patti Smith. And those who spoon together, stay together, agree the experts.

The Nuzzle - If one partner sleeps with their head on the other’s chest, this is the nuzzle and it indicates a high level of trust. It’s a position often seen in the early stages of a relationship, or when a romance has been rekindled. Because ain’t nobody got time for that after the first few months.

The Back Kissers - Do you sleep butt cheek to butt cheek? This means that both partners are ‘relaxed and comfortable with one another,’ and you’ve probably been together for more than year. Go you.

The Unraveling Knot - The one where you start off having a little cuddle and then realise that someone breathing on you isn’t conducive to a good night’s sleep, so you move away. This indicates a mature relationship. It’s ‘a compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds,’ explains relationship psychologist Dr Sweet.

The Liberty Lovers - This is a really popular position – 27 per cent of couples do it. And, good news, it means you’re both feeling connected and secure in yourselves.

The Leg Hug - If your partner intertwines their leg with yours, that could mean they are craving an emotional or sexual connection. But, if you both initiate it, it means you can’t get enough of each other. Even when you’re asleep. 

The Tangle  - This is another position most people only adopt early on in the relationship, or after sex. If you’re still doing it regularly after six months (the tangle, not the sex), it could be a sign of unhealthy co-dependence. According to New York psychotherapist Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, it might mean you ‘could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart.’

The Space Hog - Two words: get rid. If your partner’s hogging all the room, it’s a sign they expect you to play second fiddle. Interestingly, you can also tell who’s more dominant in a relationship by where they lay their head on the pillow. If your heads are close on the pillow, you’re equals. Those who sleep closer to the headboard tend to be more confident, and ultimately more dominant.